So, is cyber sex cheating? Yes and no. Well, maybe. It depends.. Cheating is in the mind of the individual
couple. For every person that states, "Yes, it's definitely cheating," I can think of another person disputing the quandary. Yet
still, others say it depends on the situation and how each couple define "cheating". Such is life. Just when you want a concrete, black-and-white answer, you realize everything is gray.
For starters,. Are you doing something you wouldn't want your partner to know about, keeping your cyber lover a secret, or engaging in activity you would hesitate to do in front of your real-life partner? Generally speaking, if any of those apply, the action could either be considered cheating or at least damaging to your relationship. If you don't want your partner to know about your online attractions, then you should rethink your actions. What perspective does your partner have about cyber sex? In effect, the non-participating mate is the deciding factor. If he or she feels betrayed, then there's your answer.
There are several red flags to consider. Is there an emotional attachment to your cyber "friend?" For instance, do you look forward to "speaking" with this one person? If so, you may want to analyze your true intentions is the cyber communication a replacement for what you feel you are missing from your real partner? Finally, is your online relationship taking time away from your partner? If so, decide now who is your priority.
To begin with, many people described the fundamental difference between cyber sex and pornographic movies and magazines. While there is little chance the fantasizer may actually meet one of the pin-up models, cyber sex involves two people having a real-life "conversation". There is an actual person on the other end of the computer
line. People point out, emotional bonds are easily created after sharing this type of experience with someone. With the introduction of more conventional topics, the person becomes even more human. This new-found connection can be damaging to a partner's
self-esteem. Many feel betrayed, belittled, less desirable, unattractive, and even replaced when their partner engaged in cyber sex.
To some, cyber sex creates the same feeling of emotional betrayal that physical cheating does, and After all, 90% of sex is in the brain. Some people also believed that if he/she truly loves and respects you, then he won't consider fantasizing about others.
Like I stated, there were just as many defenses for cyber sex. Many people emphatically exclaim that if the only intention is to experience an orgasm, then it's not cheating. Many people I know one in particular that this practice is no different than looking at pornography. Similarly, if there is existing trust and support, then no reason exists to follow through with actual intercourse. cyber sex is literally a safe way to relieve sexual tension when his/her partner is not present and is just a fantasy. Many people maintain that they would never carry out the imaginative stories they concoct online. Plus, cyber sex can benefit the non-participating partner, too. How, you may ask? Men AND women sometimes become so aroused from cyber sex that their real-life partner receives extra attention. The cyber world can be an enticing arena in which one can lose inhibitions and even learn new tricks to share with their partner. Still, you may take the black-and-white approach cheating can't be done with the body, only the heart. Hmmm....
If you're going to participate in cyber sex, create guidelines with your partner first. How does he/she feel about this practice? What are your intentions? If you are trying to fill a void in your relationship, discuss it with one another first! COMMUNICATION! COMMUNICATION! COMMUNICATION! Why not try having cyber sex with your own partner (Hey! It actually works ) Whatever you do, set explicit guidelines and know your priorities.
While cyber sex can be fun, flirtatious, and a temporary end to a means, proceed
with caution. Is cyber sex cheating? I would say a big fat YES however one thing I do know is that gray areas can be conducive to slippery slopes. Where do you draw the line? Would you stop yourself if you actually met your online paramour in person?
Sange
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